How’s Your Quality of Life?

Girls helping their Papa work on our last visit to the farm for the year.
Girls helping their Papa work on our last visit to the farm for the year.

The last few days, it’s been getting kind of chilly out. This morning actually it was 37 degrees! And don’t call me a wuss, either! I live in the friggin Pacific NW, okay? Lol…

So anyway, I was just thinking about something. Yesterday morning it was really chilly. After breakfast, I built a fire and then the girls and I snuggled down on the couch under my favorite fuzzy blanket and I had a cup of my beloved eggnog coffee.

I think we sat there for about an hour, just BS-ing together. Little Rambo had fun hiding under the blanket and like usual Ballerina Girl just wanted to snuggle. It was really, really nice. And it got me remembering.

I was remembering two years ago when it was getting close to winter. We had a drafty house and no woodstove. I was working full-time, so the mornings consisted of getting the kids up, fed, dressed, and out the door to daycare and me to work. Mr. Hot Stuff always left for school really early so I did this part by myself.

I hated those mornings, mainly because I LOVE mornings and it seemed like such a waste. I hated rushing my kids through getting dressed and having breakfast. I hated the fact that I’d get impatient and frustrated with them when they would dawdle like any kid does. I hated the fact that on those mornings, when all my kids wanted to do was snuggle with me under a blanket, I had to say no.

It was all for a cause, though. Quite worthy. It’s been a little over a year since we moved here for Mr. Hot Stuff’s new job and I became a stay home mom. Sure, it has its trials, but oh man. The amount of stress I DON’T have is incredible. I can now devote my best hours of the day to my family instead of an employer.

I don’t have to listen to irrational people rage away on the phone when all I’m trying to do is resolve their problem. Neither my husband or I needs to worry about rushing around anymore to get kids out the door. I can finally take my time to cook nutritious food for my family instead of throwing something together to fill their bellies.

So, the quality of life has taken a tremendous leap. I think, all along, I knew this would happen, but sometimes it felt like a pipe dream that would never become reality. But it is! And that’s encouragement for me.

While this still isn’t the ideal situation for us (I can’t even garden here!), it’s been a huge improvement and I am really, really grateful for that. I can’t say that going through that time of working while Mr. Hot Stuff was in school was easy. It was pretty difficult, actually. But it was worth it.

It’s a journey and a gradual one at that. In this journey we do achieve these milestones that not only mark our progress, but also give us direct improvement of the quality of life. But in order to get there, we have to start. Have you started on your journey yet? Have you thought about what kind of life you want?

So here’s my question for you – how is your quality of life? Where are you on your path to achieving the life that you want? Remember, anything is possible, it’s just some roads are longer or harder than others. Are you intimidated by the journey? Or are you perhaps already on your journey? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

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  1. It’s amazing what the little things can do for your day and your mood. It is refreshing to hear people talk about their enjoyment of something so simple as having time in the morning to enjoy a cup of coffee (and some snuggles!). My boyfriend and I are on month 4 of our move out into the country, and oh gosh, no place besides my parents’ house has ever felt more like home. While we still are commuting to the city for our jobs, and sometimes wish we could be financially secure enough not to, your post makes me realize just how great it is to have such a ‘problem’. It is all part of the path we are taking to achieving a better quality of life.
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    1. Oh I so agree. It really is a path and it’s definitely a process. My dad asked me the other day “WHEN ARE YOU MOVING OUT HERE??” which is kind of a joke these days because we all know how antsy we are to get out there… but it takes time to achieve that goal. In the meantime I’ll enjoy the early morning cups of eggnog coffee (as long as it lasts, at least!)

      In some ways, you are way further along than we are and good for you! What you are saying reminds me of my parents – it took them a couple years actually to make the transition, building their little apartment, living on-site in a travel trailer to work there during the summer, etc. It takes time, but I bet someday you will find a way to be financially secure enough to not have to commute.

      That’s what we’re working on right now. So far, progress is slow and steady, but it’s becoming apparent that it might just make our dream a reality in a matter of a few years. I hope so!
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  2. You are so right that it’s a gradual journey! Part of my dream life has been in place for years–that’s my family. When it comes to where and how I live, I’ve been back and forth between my “dream life” and other detours for my whole adult life. Some of those “detours” in MY plan were downright awesome and I wouldn’t trade them for anything. I can truthfully say that I have enjoyed the journey.

    Right now, at end of our 50s, my hubs and I are at a dream location and have started living the dream life. Every season finds us moving along on our personal goals and our kids moving along on theirs in some way or another. We all happen to have similar goals and that is a blessing!

    For years we weren’t sure how we were going to get here to this physical place and the lifestyle we wanted to end up with. Then it just kind of happened. Now we have to pace ourselves and be patient about meeting all our goals. Little by little, it’s falling in place!

  3. Hello.
    I am a man and I can relate to your life a lot. My wife has become a stay at home Mom with our 2 children since about 1 and 1/2 years ago. As far as where we are on our path in life, we are starting to achieve some of our dreams. It is looking hopeful, that in the not to distant future, I may be able to be a 100% work at home Dad. I can say this for sure. I know the best thing I can do is be thankful for whatever I am given. To your dreams coming true. Sye
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